LOL. This is how I feel sometimes about the lovely bunch of ‘kids’ I have with me in the eye-opening Perdana Fellows program. I am by far one of the oldest, if not the oldest Fellow (eventhough we’re talking about an age standard deviation of just slightly more than one). Exciting times!
It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.
— Bruce Lee
I stumbled upon this amazing site: Sources of Insight, where the author wrote a whole article on life lessons from Bruce Lee. Worth a read.
These days it feels like I’m dealing with a daily email tsunami. There is obvious futility in trying to hack or chop at water, let alone a long high body of water that devours everything in it’s path. Naturally I turned to the the Great Oracle of Webness for help.
"Lots of time you spend dealing with email is spent writing email, and clearing up confusion with email you sent earlier. Spend less time on email and more time working by practicing good email habits: like clarity,concision, making it actionable, and relevance. The less time you spend communicating simple ideas, the less time you’ll spend sifting through your inbox”
In terms of the Internet, it’s like humanity acquiring a collective nervous system. Whereas previously we were more like a… collection of cells that communicated by diffusion. With the advent of the Internet, it was suddenly like we got a nervous system. It’s a hugely impactful thing.
— From Marvel’s Wolverine and The X-Men #10, 2012.
There are those that may disagree with just civilly talking your way out of conflict.
This type of people probably feel that the easiest way is with a right hook to the face followed swiftly with an uppercut (with or without adamantium claws). Apparently, if you do it right, you only have to do it once.
But violence begets more violence, so the saying goes. Unless you’ve got Wolverine’s superhuman regenerative abilities, that path can be a real pain. Even Cyclops, who can just stand there and zap his conflicts away, chooses to have an open and honest dialogue (nicely illustrated in the scene above, which was selected to prove this specific point of view. natch.)
Similarly, in our unpowered normal human existence, we sometimes face situations where we get hit with that one nasty email that just ruins our day. Be it from a co-worker, your boss, a family member or even a stranger. The first impulse would be to respond in kind.
You might feel triumphant for a bit, but in the long run, it might come back to haunt you. Especially if the recipient is your boss. Maybe the sender just had a rough day and unfortunately that nasty email went to you. It happens. Covey’s 7 Habits espouses the Rule: ‘seek first to understand, then to be understood’. It’s a really good idea to live by, and you will be surprised how easily conflicts can get resolved by sticking to this rule.
Well, if your civil response doesn’t do the trick, then your last resort is to just ignore the instigator and walk away.
Right. I’m just going to leave this quote attributed to Winston Churchill, down here then.
Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.